BOYS WILL BE BOYS.
Except they won't. Or, don't have to be. Why do people still insist on using phrases like this? I was recently on facebook and someone I don't know commented on a friends status post about potty training. My friend was having trouble with potty training her son who is about the same age as Stan and this women commented "Boys tend to be harder as they concentrate on things less". REALLY? I mean, REALLY???!!! Are you actually serious? I was so shocked to read this. It made me (probably unnecessarily) angry. In this day and age with all the problems we have with boys not doing so well at schools (according to statistics), women, and mothers (I checked, she has two children, a boy and a girl) feel the need to stereotype children this young. She has basically written off her son and all boys with this silly comment. Do you not think if we continue to tell boys they are no good, concentrate less etc then they will go on to do just that.
Many parents still seem so set on putting girls and boys into these.....dare I say it, pink/blue camps? I often even hear myself at playgrounds justifying Stanley's timid behaviour that he is shy and doesn't want to go down the slide with all the other boys. Why do I end up laughing it off sometimes and I'm so ashamed to say I've even be known to make fun of his cautious ways to other parents to fit in in all this stupid playground/playgroup parent hierarchy.
Why do boys have to be more boisterous and loud and girls quiet, sensible and thoughtful in their play. I know this to be untrue just in the small friendship group I share. I have friends with kids who have boys that are playful, loud and sometimes unruly, but I know many friends daughters that are also the same - and what fun they are! I also know quiet sensitive cautious boys (Stan being one of them) but I know girls that have similar traits. What does it really matter anyway how quickly they walk, talk, learn to go down a slide, potty train? Surely all we should be focusing on it letting them enjoy being who they are, and a CHILD, no matter what that might be and how that fits in with what is the 'norm'.